There is nothing pleasant about seeing a family home in Maine have to be listed to sell because of divorce.
Because neither spouse of a divorcing couple can swing the house mortgage payments alone.
Or struggle to service the loan on the Maine home. And keep up with all the other costs associated with owning, maintaining a Maine home.
To avoid the hard knock of the wolf at the door called foreclosure.
Often accelerated because of the added hefty expense of a Maine divorce.
All those billable hours that rack up the longer the Maine divorce drags on. As the lady with the blindfold and holding the scales decides if the two partners can not. Justice today is expensive when it is settled climbing up and down court house steps in a prolonged Maine divorce.
By the way, Maine is the 46th lowest state for FSSR.
Not every divorce in Maine means splitting hairs over property ownership. Because our Maine houses cost less, don't have huge second and third mortgages piled on them for liens as a rule.
Many Maine homes are a work in progress, pay as you go DIY housing exercise. With help from family and friends. Lots of bartering and no money exchanged.
In the small rural areas of Maine life is simple.
There also is not a lot of left over discretionary funding at the end of the day. To fool around with in a re-financing maneuver to let one half of the untying marital knot to stay put. Pay the other off if there is any house equity established before the divorce proceedings started in earnest.
The goal often for the kids to remain in the same rooms, neighborhood haunts they call a childhood in a Maine home. A house is just a house but with kids onboard, it becomes a home. Filled with their laughter.
Where all the holidays, birthday parties, sleepovers, ball games, hide and go seek, backyard tree houses adventures all take place growing up in the Pine Tree state.
But the divorces in Maine where it is anything but amicable. When venom oozes and the tension is felt listing the property, the Maine home. At the kitchen table if both of the names on the house mortgage are present, it can get pretty edgy, very dicey.
Barbed conversations that turn snide and hurtful take someone seeing the mission at hand.
In deciding what to do with the Maine real estate.
If there is no way one can buy the other out, Mom and Dad have to both move on.
With however the custody and possession chips fall in Maine divorce court.
After mediation, guardian ad litems, whatever speeds up or slows down the finishing touches of a Maine divorce settlement.
There is a fine line between love and hate. And greater sensitivity to getting everyone through the process of a Maine divorce means staying neutral. Or thinking about the little ones that need to get to the other side of this split of the family unit.
We list, sell most of the Maine homes we are involved with in a typical real estate day. So it makes it easier to referee. Wearing the black and white vertical stripes and occassionally have to blow the whistle. Regroup, call a time out.
To sometimes remind the adults there are little ears in the room and try hard to keep them out of the fray. Of not so friendly fire.
It becomes a simple housing exercise once the heighten emotions of a Maine divorce tug of war over kids and possessions is accepted. Not liked by all or anyone. But once most in the room realize life goes on.
Moving on has to happen in the transfer of ownership plans of the Maine home owners are hammered out in legalese.
Duely microfilmed, recorded in the local Maine registry of deeds.
Once the stages of grief are wrestled with and the chips fall the way they do.
In a buy out of the Maine home arrangement. Or the gotta sell and if neither Mom or Dad can swing the go it alone in the Maine home. As they set sail for new beginnings. And regroup, heal, move on.
Like in most industries in service providing today, we are a Dr Phil of sorts. Start by listening. Putting outselves in the shoes of both halves of the seller husband and wife, what each used to think was a life partnership.
We draw from our own personal experiences with a Maine divorce, and out of empathy, lots of candor. To set expectations that always has to happen when we look and pick up the puzzle pieces. In real estate property sales that have to be discussed in private.
As we lay all the pieces out on the Maine home family table or here in the real estate agency office.
Face up showing of all the cards to play and to explain what is realistic seperated from just wishful thinking. Or outright denial in the tough process of a Maine divorce. That can be more contentious if the legal beagles fan the billows pumping hot air into the divorce spit ball split up. That makes any person's life go sideways or upside down.
Have seen my share of Maine divorces where home sales are the not so plesant procedure.
For the parties living there if part of the housing solution is a move it or lose it only option choice.
To cut the financial ties.
Undo the promissory note promises to keep the house payments current.
Same with the property taxes on the Maine home.
And to make sure not to commit waste. Be law abiding and to fit into the neighborhood around the Maine home with the white picket fence. Two cats, one dog and a few apple trees in the backyard.
What makes the divorce in Maine house sale process extra hard?
The kids not remaining in the home can feel like a broken pledge that neither parent feels good about and wants to avoid. But kids growing up in a home free of tension or arguements, the prolonged silent treatment once a marriage or partnership breaks down. That toxic resentment in the air does no one any good.
But a Maine divorce represents a failure. A breakdown.
Despite how hard the couple works through marital counseling therapy. All the sleepless nights, angry episodes of saying things that hit like a fist. And are regretted later in the rise and fall of a successful Maine marriage headed to divorce court. The mediator going back and forth up and down the hall.
To discuss options needed to be arrived at for the final divorce decree to spell out for the world to see.
The Maine divorce and subsequent house sale embarrassment. It also comes around to taking ownership of knowing both halves of the once marital bliss have a role in the demise.
Cause and effect, pride, jealousy, and all the other dealdly sins can weigh in and bog down the sense of well being.
When despite all the best efforts, the partnership blows apart and ends up in Maine divorce court.
And sometimes the pass the house keys to the Maine home are part of the equation in a Maine divorce settlement.
Maine divorces cause the kind of business that is not enjoyable. Not like the elderly widow who hugs the first time home buyer that takes over the house reins. Of the Maine home built by a couple with a sixty plus year marriage of its ups and downs but has longevity.
If you find yourself in a Maine divorce and a house sale discussion needs to be aired, we are here to weigh the pros and cons in private.
And help make that housing decision. In the should I stay or should I go because of the Maine divorce where there are real estate holdings, a house that is under the property inventory items list.
MOOERS REALTY 69 North Street Houlton ME 04730